I can't even begin to describe what we are feeling right now. We rejected the referral. This handsome boy is mentally delayed and has other major health problems we were not told. If we knew all the information at the SDA - we would have never even accepted to come and see him. We were lied to and told that this boy is the best they have to offer and this boy is currently at Torez, an internat for severly mentally disabled children and has been there since June of last year. We were told he is in Mariupol in a normal orphanage and found out that this was not the case late in the evening once we got to the train. Too late to change anything...
The local inspector and the orphanage director could not believe SDA did this to us. They thought we specifically requested a mentally disabled child. I'm angry at the administration and their careleness. They knew we are a young couple and that we wanted a healthy and young child(ren). We were told to come back tomorrow to discuss the mess they've created. I don't know what is going to happen and what options we will be given.
This is the hardest thing I ever had to experience. I cannot understand why something like this happened to us. We always thought SDA would be willing to help us since we are Ukranians, but it seems that they have a different agenda.
Please pray for the next steps we have to take. If our next meeting doesn't work out - we will be coming home without a child which is just breaking my heart. God is our only hope at this point.
Thursday, March 20, 2008
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Your family is definitely in our prayers. It amazes me that you have had such a difficult time and you are Ukrainians. When we had our first appointment in November (we're still waiting to return for a 2nd appt), we were told that Ukrainians were given the best children and not foreigners. As hard as it is right now, remember that God's timing is always perfect and He is there with you right now.
Wow...we will certainly continue to pray for you guys. We have been praying and were excited that you guys "received" a good referral. Sorry to hear that you did not and that they jacked you guys around. We are following your story and will beg God on your behalf to receive a good referral from the SDA upon your return to Kiev.
How painful. I am so sorry. I would have thought that since you are Ukrainan too, things would have worked out differently.
My heart is breaking for you! It's unbelieveable that you were deceived about his true health conditions.
We're sending prayers with the request that you have another appointment with the SDA immediately and get a referral that is truly right for you. Also praying for God to wrap you in his peace as you go through this emotional turmoil.
Praying!!!
So sorry that this happened to you guys. I pray that God will give you peace and that you will be able to quickly get another referral that is for YOUR child.
Ruslan and Inna!!! I am so terribly sorry about the referral. You must be devistated, mad and plain fed up! I would have thought you would have a better chance than any international couple! I will pray for you to get this fixed!
Ruslan and Inna,
I am so sorry for all that you have been through! There are THOUSANDS of children in Ukraine that need families - THOUSANDS of healthy and adoptable children. It truly saddens me to hear that yet another family has been denied the opportunity to make a world of difference for a child. My hope for you is that you are able to get another opportunity at the SDA and able to be shown the children that were meant for your family. They are there.
You two are in my thoughts and prayers!
Amy
It is such a tragedy when there are so many adoptable children and yet the SDA cannot seem to locate them for good families waiting with open arms.
Now is the time to really reach for your inner strength and do everything you can to try to find your child/children. Keep the faith.
Laura
You are definitely in our thoughts and prayers! God is watching over you, and He knows your heartache. Don't give up or lose faith!!
Staci
i pray your meeting with the sda will lead you to your child (or children). i'm sorry it has been so difficult.
warmest regards,
rachel
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